Only Pick a Fight When You Can Win
How to turn a confrontation into a conversation
Wouldn’t it be great if you could more easily resolve conflicts and improve your relationships?
- This program covers how to manage your emotions, find out what is important to you and the other person, how to solve differences and reach a solution that you both want.
- Learn the steps to solving conflicts with other people, both at work and at home.
- What to do if someone just won’t agree? And what if you are uncomfortable confronting or saying no?
Have a conversation, instead of a confrontation?
In this program you will learn how to:
- Know when NOT to pick a fight;
- Identify an issue worth solving;
- Get ready to tackle a conflict;
- Create common goals worth pursuing;
- Elegantly overcome resistance and non-cooperation;
- Calm negative emotions immediately; and,
- Get what you need and avoid the 2 Extremes Trap!
Ayo Gnädig, Berlin
For me personally it was very helpful to be reminded of the fact that emotionality is not helpful in a fight and that my feelings can tell me something about my current needs.
This audio program gives you another opportunity to think about fights. They don't have to be aggressive. This is a different way of approaching them. They can be a seed for improving understanding of each other and building deeper relationships.
Dr. Sydney Okojie
How the program was useful to me personally:
It opened for me a new way of solving difficult communication problems.I see the frame the program presents as a strategy that is both practical and applicable.
Chris Freeman, NLP Master Practitioner, Cert. Trainer & Consultant 'Language & Behaviour Profile' FuturePace
This audio program covers vital points about solving communication problems that other material elsewhere does not. At a personal level, it makes a great difference to the way you even think about conflicts, from your own perspective and from the other person's point of view.
For those involved in something like coaching, this audio program offers a very clear concise addition to the material you already use, made more 'user-friendly' by the conversational rather than a 'process' style.
Cheryl Bassett, Lakeside Controls
I found it useful to consider doing a "six step reframe" on my own feelings prior to initiating a conversation with a coworker, family member or friend. My job puts me in a position to coach/council 13 women and I was looking for some useful tools to help me to feel more comfortable or freed up to speak to them when there are unpleasant things to deal with.
I see now that once you deal with your own feelings and get unstuck, then you will be much more effective, empathetic and able to take care of the other persons feelings. I see now that I generally go to second position with them and stay there when a better spot may well be to shift to 3rd position for resolution agreement.
Great program, thanks!! I would highly recommend anything that Shelle is involved with, always first rate information.